Male Headship

There’s no gridlock with God…no stalemate…no tie game. If a husband and wife have talked things out, but cannot come to agreement on a matter, the Bible teaches that the husband’s authority prevails. By divine design God has entrusted to the husband leadership and authority with which to wisely and lovingly rule the household. The husband is not guaranteed the smartest decisions–but God does expect him to exercise leadership in the home and to have the power to veto (break up an impasse with his vote).  However, this does not give him the right to be arrogant and to flaunt his authority, or to run roughshod over other family members’ feelings. He has no right to refuse to listen to his wife, to withdraw from confrontational discussions, to act in anger, or to act in a non-understanding way (1 Peter 3:7). He has no right to exasperate his children or anyone else in the family. He must love his wife even as Christ loves the church and gave Himself up for it.  Because of the Biblical doctrine of ‘male headship,’ I place (and I believe God places) the brunt of the responsibility for family growth, happiness, and harmony, upon the husband. Since he is the one entrusted with leadership, he is the one chiefly responsible for leading the family towards the goal of Christlikeness.

 Peter Wise


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A follower of Christ and sinner who needs his grace everyday.

2 Responses to Male Headship

  1. Trey Medley says:

    I think if things reach a stalemate, the husband has failed. Instead, the call to leadership is a call to make the first move, whether it be to reconcile an impasse, to begin a new journey, or whatever. The thing is often times we know what God is calling us to do, we just don’t do it waiting for someone else to take the first step and saying “oh yeah I agree, let’s do this.” The husband is called to take that first step. Your family has no bible study together? It’s not the wife’s job to start it, it’s the husband’s. We should never think of this role as having “veto power” or acting as a “tie-breaker” because that sets up an adversarial position, and that is not how Christ treats the Church. Instead Christ comes along side and guides by walking with us.

  2. John says:


    Thanks for your comment. I think “veto power” should be use with grace and humility. There are so many different circumstances and challenges in a marriage. There are some that are very complicated. The role of a Biblical husband is not an easy role. We need grace to continue to be sanctify by His word in loving our wives as Chirst love the church. I agree with you saying, “We should never think of this role as having “veto power” or acting as a “tie-breaker”, but I do think that in all circumstances, the husband has the final authority when a decision has to be made. But I am also aware of some men uses this God given authority in sin. We should always look to Christ in our leadership role 🙂 God bless

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